1. Choosing beauty over character
Wisdom points
- Remember the importance of good character
- Make a list of intangible qualities you find attractive in a partner (e.g Intelligence, kindness)
2. Not learning about relationships.
Wisdom points
- Start learning about relationships
- Get a mentor
- Pay attention to the ladies around you
3. Not managing their sexuality
Wisdom points
- Make a list of reasons you need self-control (e.g losing honour through sex, diseases etc)
- Build up your character and determination (grow spiritually etc)
- Always put clear boundaries in place (Avoiding people, things, and places of temptation)
4. Not praying about marriage
Wisdom Points
- Start praying about your life partner
- Start to seek God's leading (start practicing hearing God in all areas of your life)
- Confirm from God
5. Taking advantage of women
Wisdom Points
- Treat ladies with respect. Don't look down on or take advantage of them
- Think about how you can act better
- See all ladies as your sisters
6. Don't measure your value by money alone
Don't marry for where you are but for where you are going. Don't discount yourself from approaching ladies because you're not in as comfortable a position presently as they are.
Don't wait to be very rich before you choose a wife. At that stage, it will be very difficult to know the women that like you for you.
Don't depend on money to lead in your home. Don't tie your ability to lead in the home to the amount of money you bring home in comparison to your wife.
Wisdom Points
- List what makes you valuable as a man asides money (what are your skills, gifts, purpose.
- List the leadership qualities you need and start to work on them (remember you're going to lead a home).
7. Not submitting to authority.
As a man, you need other men to speak into your life. You can't run this race alone.
You'll go further with mentors (Proverbs 11:14). Even the best of the best still needs coaching e.g. footballer Ronaldo.
Wisdom Points
- Ask yourself "how can authority figures help me?"
- Take inventory of the authority figures in your life
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