Tips
1. Think Marriage; not just wedding. Don't confuse a wedding with marriage. Marriage is the real deal, a wedding is a ceremony while marriage is a covenant. Some people over-prepare for the wedding for years and they have little preparation for the marriage.
Relates personal experience - "When I and my wife were getting married, I wanted to make sure she would not need to use public transport when we got married. True to the plan we got her a car.
To achieve this, we cut a lot of things from the wedding plan.
We did not have a wedding program, we simply informed guests of each step verbally. It's either you please people or please your marriage. People that matter; don't mind, and people that mind, don't matter.
2. Don't be available for dating, be available for marriage. Make your terms and intentions clear especially as a woman. Men are okay with being challenged and do well with women that do that. So make your own stand and intentions for any relationship you want to go into. Don't enter relationships that are not defined (also known as situationships).
3. Proposal doesn't have to be dramatic or public. Social media has caused a fad of public, dramatic proposals but there is nowhere in the bible that says it has to be that way. Proposals can be done in quiet and seclusion. The proposal doesn't mean the marriage will work. Major on the major (marriage).
4. Prayer is still in vogue - Always take time to pray and seek God's face as to if the person is in line with His will. Cover the person in prayer as well in between when you meet and get married.
5. Always involve third parties such as your Pastor before your parents. If you involve your parents before you are sure of the person you want to marry, you will look unserious. Let your Pastors screen you and the person ahead so you don't embarrass yourself in front of your parents.
6. Study your inlaws before you go for an introduction - Don't just rush to visit your soon to be in-laws, study them. If they are traditional people, greet them accordingly. You are the one coming to ask them for something and so you must speak their own language when it comes to interacting with them ( in terms of greeting, comportment, table manners etc). Find out about where you are going and what they like.
You don't have a second chance to make a first impression. If you travel to go and see your inlaws, don't sleep in the same room as your soon-to-be-spouse and ensure you don't talk in private (this could give an impression of poor home-training i.e loose morals). Clear your plate from the table after eating, sweep, tidy your bed etc to show your inlaws that you have home training. Don't assume they are not watching you.
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