WhatsApp Series: Courtship Checklist

THINGS TO TALK ABOUT IN COURTSHIP 2nd Timothy 2:16
The time of courtship is not the time for feeling or pecking and kissing. it is a serious matter. it is a time to talk and get it straight away. it is expected of your courtship to prepare you for marriage, but, nowadays, the reverse is the case, the activities in courtship can never secure a happy marriage life. There are a lot of things to know and understand, and how can you know and understand if you don't talk.

Rick Warren: Learn How to Resolve Conflict & Restore Relationships

Rick Warren - Seven (7) ways to Handle Conflict and Restore Broken Relationships

Conflict never resolves itself. Time doesn't heal all wounds as popularly said. 

We never change until our love or the pain exceeds our fear. The starting point is to say "God fill me with your love"; because perfect love casts out all fear. 

Myles Munroe on the Subject of Love ♥️ (Boom-chika-wow-wow!)

Kingdom Citizenship Laws of Marriage
💕Choosing a life partner cannot just be taken without careful and prayerful consideration.

💕God does not command us anywhere in scripture to be married.

💕 You don't have to be married to be happy.

Marriage Youth Conference - Dr. D.K Olukoya

Excerpts (Paraphrased)

Marriage is;

(i.) The state or relationship of being husband and wife.

(ii.) The state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband and wife according to scripture (not man and man or woman and woman being united).

(iii.) Joining together in wedlock of two people (In a close and intimate union).

Anointed Book Summary: The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman

The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman is a book that sets forth what it describes as seven principles that can guide toward a harmonious and long-lasting relationship. The book attempts to debunk a number of what it describes as myths about marriages and why they fail. The seven principles Gottman sets out are for the partners to enhance their love maps; nurture fondness and admiration; turn toward each other instead of away; let their partner influence them; solve their solvable problems; overcome gridlock; and create shared meaning. The book was included in the Comprehensive Soldier fitness program. 

Anointed Book Summary: Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus (1992) is a book written by American author and relationship counselor John Gray, after he had earned degrees in meditation and taken a correspondence course in psychology.

Pastor Olumide Emmanuel:The Submissive Helper

Excerpts

Ephesians 5:22-24,33

The words love and submission trigger mindsets in various people due to past negative experiences. But the bible says nevertheless the word of God standeth strong on its foundation. The word of God cannot bend because of people’s individual opinions.

Fela Durotoye - Twenty (20) things you must know before turning 30

Excerpts

1. You must discover yourself - it is discovery that enlists you for life not necessarily birth. You can be born but you're useless.

2. You must have learnt how to use your gifting to solve problems definitely.

3. You must have got some ideas on how to make money.

Dr. D.K Olukoya - Laws of Courtship

Excerpts

Hard facts about marriage
1) There is no perfect marriage

2) The family that prays together stay together

Rick Warren - Finding the Love of Your Life

If energy, ambition, values, goals, educational, spiritual background are not the same as your partner but you're in love don't go ahead. Just because you love someone doesn't mean you should marry them. They must be a believer.

Anointed Devotional Sample: Dating in the Modern Age

Bible Devotional, Day 4 of 5: Sample of the Bible reading plan titled - Dating in the Modern Age

Courtesy - Ben Stuart 

Day 4

Who to Date

One of the great dangers in dating is the tendency to adopt a consumer mentality rather than a companion mentality. When you ask people what kind of person they would like to date, they begin to list a set of characteristics. “Tall, but not too tall. Sensitive, but strong. Confident, but also caring. Handsome, but funny. And a good job with solid income.”

Anointed Book Summary: The Act of Marriage - Tim & Beverly La Haye (For 20+ yr olds viewing only)

Anointed Book Summary: The Act of Marriage Tim & Beverly La Haye

Chapter summaries

Chapter 1: The Sanctity of S*x

This chapter sets out to convince the reader that s*x is holy and sacred, not dirty—an attitude they have found to be prevalent among the couples they have counseled. 

Anointed Book Summary: Things I Wish I'd Known Before We Got Married by Dr. Gary Chapman

The following insights are taken from the Leader guide of the above titled book:

Leader Guide for Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married

Chapter 1: I wish I had known that being in love is not an adequate foundation for building a successful marriage.
1. If you are single, how would you describe what being “in love” should feel like?

Preparing For Marriage: Bishop David Abioye

The marriage you don't prepare for will confuse you. People take time to prepare for everything. Some spend 7 years in the University preparing for success in their careers but think they just need to find a partner and march down the altar to be joined together. 

Anointed Book Summary: The Five Love Languages by Dr. Gary Chapman

The Five Love Languages

1) Words of Affirmation

Some people feel most loved when they receive words of affirmation from their loved ones.  It may be being told “I love you”, or being praised, complimented, appreciated, supported, or encouraged.  Essentially, having affirming words will make you feel loved if this is your primary love language.